Should women pursue men for dating
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But there was something else among young Catholics, sometimes in books (I had a lot of issues with Captivating, but that’s a post for another time) and sometimes in conversations I had, that I started to notice.
They had a lot of opinions, bordering on rules, it sometimes seemed, about dating and relationships: Guard your heart. Don’t be too forward with guys, because it’s not feminine.
However this doesn’t mean that there are hard fast etiquette rules to how husbands and wives meet, date, or act when married. You’ve already lost love if you demand, and go on a dating strike until these etiquette rules are met. The women only reciprocate, but never initiate any contact. So with this many varying thoughts, opinions, and definitions floating around, how is anyone going to know to which definition you support? We can’t reverse generational expectations overnight. How can we judge these men by dating standards that are not part of popular culture, not specifically supported by individual parishes, or even in families anymore, or anywhere else but in our own heads? Show respect for men by letting them show their interest in their own personalized way. Or are they just our scapegoat for challenging our comfort zone?
You want to get his digits, ask him out, email him, buy tickets to events, and follow up when he doesn’t call after the first date to find out why.
But this take charge way of interacting might keep you single.
Men, take these opportunities to act courageously, hold that door, and call her today. Men may actually think they are pursuing, and in the same instance, the woman may not feel pursued, and will then respond in ways that will make him feel rejected. Are you open to marriage on God’s terms, which are often mysterious, or only your own? Women, if you do initiate contact in the beginning, it doesn’t mean you’re doomed to do all the planning, dating, and pursuing all the days of your married life. Remember at the end of our lives, we are not only responsible for the things we’ve done, but also those things we didn’t do. Give men a taste of what unconditional love means (not, only if you call/email/ask me on a date first). They married a year later after Joy graduated from the University of Connecticut with a Bachelor of Arts degree in English Literature.
Men are human beings, apt to grow and change with you, not puppets following a script. She takes her vocation seriously and her coffee black.